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Bloody lips.

You know what's just gnawing at me?

This phrase:

"He bit his lover's lip hard enough to draw blood."

And others to that effect.

Is that supposed to be sexy? Creative? Artistic?

It's none of those. If anything, it's clichéd (therefore boring), unrealistic (therefore pointless in most kissing and sex scenes), and just plain silly. Especially when it's followed up by something like, "It stung a bit at first, but as his lover licked at the wound the pain turned into pleasure."

What the hell are they---puppies?

I think it's safe to say that most people don't get off on feeling (physical) pain. I think it's safe to say that most fictional characters are included.

So why is this so common? I will tell you. Because a few people thought it was neat when Someone Unknown first used the phrase at the Dawn of Fandom; they copied it, and then people started copying them, and so fourth. Now it's commonplace. A throwaway line. A space-waster. Neither imaginative nor useful. I cringe if I come across any variant.

I also dislike it when applied to one person. For example, if Harry is being derided by Snape on a particularly bad day, he may bite his own lip in annoyance or frustration. Many times, an author will write that he bites to the point of blood trickling down his lip. The common reaction is for Harry to lick the blood away, without acknowledging his pain. Tell me, how is this so? Don't you react when you stub your toe, prick your finger, or have a run-in with the family cat's little claws? Not to mention pressing your blunt tooth through the sensitive flesh of your lip!

Not to say pain is out of the question, you crazy kids. But surely you can think of some other painful, sexual act to amuse yourself with? What about fisting? There should be more fisting in fandom. :)

Ouch! It always turns me off because biting hard enough, with our blunt teeth, to draw blood, is fucking painful!

I don't like it either, but I'm sure there are people who do. There are as many kinks as readers! I, for one, hate most metaphors in sex: mushrooms (I can't stand a mushroom in a sex scene), lovers who bawls like cows and so on.

From the daily_snitch, I just had to ask ... mushrooms in a sex scene???? What the hell is that a metaphor of?

Ow! I'm a lip-biter (my own, when stressed), but I never bite hard enough to bleed. I get a gross welt on the inside of my lip that is about as unsexy as it sounds. When I have accidentally bitten my tongue or cheek hard enough to bleed, it hurts like a mo-fo.

There are other places where biting hard (though to the point of blood? I dunno about that...) is a much more attractive prospect. The shoulder... the thigh... muscley places, y'know? *g*

I do this too, to myself, but it's a nervous reaction sort of thing that I always stop doing as soon as I realize I'm doing it. I guess it's equivalent to nail biting. I can't think of anything LESS sexy than lip biting. But of course, to each his own.

I too have always *hated* finding these lip biting/bleeding scenes in fanfic. They make me shudder. Obviously either the people writing them have no concept of what lip biting feels like, or else they've got no concept of what "sexy" means.

And I've never once seen anyone walking around with a bloody lip after being kissed. Nor has anyone ever attempted to bite my lip while kissing. If they did, they'd probably experience my knee to their groin, fast and hard.

As for fanfic sexual cliches, and there are so many -- this is definitely one of them. It always occurs to me that in over 50% of the cases, the sex cliches occur because so many of the writers are young/sexually inexperienced, and they base their sex scenes on what they've read, rather than on what they've experienced.

I've had someone almost do this lip-biting thing to me (my boyfriend in high school was a horrendously bad kisser) and I guess I was too busy whacking him on the side of the head right afterwards to notice if the "pain turned to pleasure". Jeez. Bite my shoulder or something, but don't bite my lip!

Yeah, there's a lot of biting going on in fics that I just don't care for. Gentle gnawing is one thing, but biting *any* body part enough to draw blood? Ick.

There should be more fisting in fandom.

That needs to be an icon :D

lol. You're right, there's far too much lip biting in fanfiction. I love biting(in sexual situations) but biting someone's lip is just... no. When the blood stops running there's this big ugly sore and no one wants that. Shoulders are more fun to bite. ^___^

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Ouch! Lip scab! I can't stand it when I loose the tiniest bit of skin on my lips. Pain.

I remember reading one rapefic, where there was lip biting, and not even then was there blood. But I know what you mean. :)

I'm not guilty of having written that. Yet. However I do bite my lips to the point of bleeding so yes, it can be done, and I do not wince or anything as I would with stubbed toe (probably because a stubbed toe is unexpected while the bite is expected and thus prepared for), so its never struck me as unrealistic to read that in a fic, though it seems more realitic when a character does it to themselves then to another, probably just because thats what I do. Heck sometimes I do it honestly and don't know i did it until Bugland tells me to stop it. However, lip biting for me is more an obsessive/compulsive act and i don't see most characters having this particular er 'bad habit'. I think bugland would be grossed out if I started bleeding from the mouth when snogging.

Stangely, come to think of it, while lip-biting isn't a big deal for me in fics, what DOES annoy me, is "bruised lips". I couldn't figure that out in the tea series among others, why was kissing always resulting in bruised lips? I'm picturing characters being propelled at eachother at 50 mph. Or punching eachotehr in the mouth (which would be fine, if their foreplay was actually a fist fight, but it wans't) I like pain, but I've never ever had my lips bruised when kissing... am I doing soemthign wrong???

And I'd second the more fisting comment- but since Ive read too many fics where my reaction is 'okaaaaay they haven't tried it have they?' i'm not sure I really want to see more of that. If people can't bother to research, they should stick to writign what they know.

It would work, I think, if it was character with a habit of biting his own lip to the point of blood, as you mentioned you can sometimes do. But often when I read it, it's a one-time thing, and the character is just like, "Oh, look, bloody lips. No biggie."

I second the "bruised lips" thing. Also, I don't like it when other characters can tell that one character has been kissing someone because their lips are slightly swollen. I doubt many people are that observant! :)

I think this thread is hilarious, because I always figured the same thing -- god, who would DO that? Like, yeah, sometiems there's nibbling involved, but biting hard enough to bleed? Come on.

Then I started dating my current partner, and damned if she didn't bite my lip hard enough to make it bleed the very first time we made out. And you know what? It was kinda hot, it felt very passionate and uncontrolled. I mean, she's got very sharp teeth, and I like lots of nipping, and it just kind of happened... but yeah, sometimes in real life things get carried away.

As far as the people who say "oh, that hurts, you would never want that to happen in real life" -- well, you might not like it if a stranger came up to you on the train and pinched your nipple, even if you would enjoy that in bed. It's all about context. Chomping on your own lip while you are eating a sandwich is different from a little nip on the outside of your lip in the middle of making out. The endorphins of sex change pain tolerance a lot.

What about fisting? There should be more fisting in fandom. I agree... And you Icon rocks...

-V

Why, thank you. I like cute wittle Dracos. :)

THANK YOU. If there's anything I hate in fic is lip-biting, especially self-inflicted. It all started when I used to read fic in another fandom (rps, apologies) and this one author used to freaking ABUSE the lip-biting until I couldn't see it mentioned anywhere else without associating it with her. It didn't help that I got to "know" this person and what a complete twit she was, not to mention everything she wrote being horribly formulaic and cliche. It just conjures up childish imagery for me -- ever watch Bush give a speech and he bites his lip? Ok.

All I know is, I was bitten on the forearm by a four-year-old once. She didn't draw blood, but my god it hurt like bloody fucking hell, and I had a humongous bruise that lasted for TWO MONTHS. I find nothing sexy about being bitten to the point of drawing blood.

Ack! Little kids have sharp teeth! My sympathies. :)

It's kink, and some people like it but most people don't. No big secret. :)

Thanks for articulating this so well. I completely agree. The lip-biting cliche is one of my pet peeves. I guess I'm just not turned on by pain. Or by exchanging blood with another person...*shudders*

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